Mirroring gives depth to appreciation, moving the person from feeling liked to feeling really seen and heard. -- Tom
I'm not officially marking this one, but i acknowledge that it's often a useful skill at these points. --Tree .... Helping an individual feel truly heard is THE primary way to open them to the group and the group to them. If we want to get past this difficult point in the process without toxic residues, this may be the most important skill. -- Tom
with distillation one is basically mirroring to the whole group what it has done and said. It is important, therefore, to engage Feedback to make sure the distillation is correct. -- Tom
When a person's words and emotions are making things awkward, give a shot at reflecting back to them what they're trying to get across. You never can tell if it will work, but if you really want to know, it can be magical. --- Tom
When someone feels fully heard, they can loosen up on the assumptions, emotions and stories they have that keep them separate from and in conflict with others. -- Tom
When people fell heard, their energy opens up and flows better, and when others watch someone being heard well and taken seriously they are more willing to share whatever is up for them. Both of these contribute to energy flowing (not sticking) so it can be followed.
Mirroring may be viewed as downstream, perhaps a subset of hologram deliberately engaged in. - wiki
When someone feels that what they have shared so far has been heard, it seems to leave more space in them for even deeper things to come up. Also, by mirroring back to an individual or the group, they will sometimes recognize previously overlooked aspects of what they said (or didn't say) that allow them to Go Deeper.
Offering the gift of mirroring to another may help us get in touch with our compassion for them and make it easier to believe they are acting with good intent. --Sue
Few things are as potent resources in dealing with the rough spots that come up in ways that meet both individual and group needs. -- Tom
When someone reflects to someone else in a public situation, the observers get more complete, verified information about what that first person was thinking or feeling. A facilitator or group member can also reflect to the whole group what the whole group has been saying, giving it a chance to get clearer about what it is thinking (see also Naming and Distilling). -- Tom
When reflecting to someone, be in a place of inquiry rather than assertion. "Am I understanding you?" -- Tom
Mirroring is a powerful tool for this, since people who feel thoroughly heard tend to let go of their obsessive attachment to their ideas and feelings and open up to what's happening with others. -- Tom ... Taking Taking Responsibility for being a Clear Channel then enables one to participate in and offer Witnessing with Compassion, Fractal, Translation, Mirroring, and Presence. - wiki
People feeling fully understood increases their capacity to hear each other and reach Alignment. -- Tom
Mirroring helps translate an attack into a contribution, and help hold your own reactivity at bay. In this case, the way you frame your reflection can draw attention to the contribution they are trying to make. - Tom
When you are able to constrain your own opinions and feelings and accurately reflect to someone what they wanted you to know, you will find them far more receptive to your perspective. -- Tom
Mirror manageable chunks of what someone says -- "manageable" for both you and them -- and get them to start and stop talking in a way that helps you do this. -- Tom
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