Simply welcoming what is, trusting it will add to the process. --Tree
Mirroring is giving a speaker feedback -- and taking feedback from them -- about how fully you understood them. -- Tom
Mirroring is a subset of Feedback. -- wiki
Your job as a mirror of what someone is saying is to not just reflect back words they said, but to embody their energy and emotions. -- Tom
Fractal is about how one part may mirror a larger pattern in the whole. -- wiki
Successful Mirroring almost always requires repeated attempts to understand, with the other person repeatedly correcting us, and then taking their correction to heart and trying again. -- Tom
Pre-req to doing mirroring. --Tree
In order to engage in effective Mirroring, a facilitator or other practitioner needs to maintain Witnessing with Compassion and serve as a Emptying, Letting Go. -- wiki
If verbal mirroring isn't working, other modes might. --John
Sometimes you will sense something unsaid generating the energy the person brings to their statements. You can name it and check with them if it's really there or if you imagined it. If you get it right, it can be quite powerful. But NEVER push it. Be curious. -- Tom
Being fully present greatly supports effective mirroring. There are people who can mirror without words, because their presence is strong. --Tree
Mirror manageable chunks of what someone says -- "manageable" for both you and them -- and get them to start and stop talking in a way that helps you do this. -- Tom ..... This can point you to take smaller chunks, or larger chunks! Sometimes you need to hear a lot of what's going on for a whole enough coherence to emerge that you can reflect back.
What needs reflecting is sometimes the big picture, and sometimes the details.
Almost all listeners talk too much. Your own silence is a resource if you are really listening. It creates space for them to feel and articulate. Interrupt it only when you are losing track -- or are afraid you will -- or when they start repeating themselves, which means they aren't feeling heard. -- Tom
Your job as a mirror of what someone is saying is to not just reflect back words they said, but to really get into their story and let them know you are there with them. It doesn't mean you have to agree with them, but it does mean that they really have to know that you can see what they see and feel what they feel. -- Tom
There is often some Translation involved in mirroring, especially when done in a group. If paraphrasing, you don't parrot back exact words, you use the words most likely to be understood *both* by the subject and by observers. --Tree
Sometimes Mirroring includes Translation or even adds a bit of Reframing. -- wik
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